Jenna and I got an opportunity to go shopping together. We decided to try on the same shirt and I thought it was funny.
After some more investigative work on Friday, Derek and I both were able to agree upon a light for the dining room. It's much easier to renovate a place when two people don't need to agree upon every aspect. We found a light ... and it was probably somebody's porch light for many years. We are bringing it indoors. We bought it for a cheap $30 at a place that saves the landfills from raw products that can be reused. The light needs renovating, but now that we were able to pry the glass from it, it's just a project. We also were able to agree upon the placement of reclaimed wood flooring. Now, we just wait until the money is saved. Will be hard with Christmas around the corner.
We will need to pull up the particle board found under the carpet and then nail down our solid wood flooring. Fortunately, even reclaimed wood can be bought tongue & groove. I feel about 90% positive that I want to purchase our wood from a company in Portland. We will save until I can buy it. Although a LOT more work than the box store milled wood taken from our forests, reclaimed wood is real wood, comes with a history and will increase the value of our home.
This weekend, I also bought a ton of dry beans. It's a cheap and nutritious way to eat. Full of iron, starch and fiber, we will be set for awhile. I bought heirloom varieties.
Although it's been a three day weekend, I haven't renovated much. It's because we are at a stalling point, waiting for money to increase so that we can purchase our wood.
At the moment, the rain is pouring hard and the sky is overcast dark gray. Derek is playing video games with Darin. Jenna's neighbor friend is over and they are playing Breyer horses in her room. The cat is sleeping, most of the laundry is done and I am making homemade split pea soup (with a sourdough bread side) tonight for dinner. I am washing the hummingbird feeder and I have a new batch of hummingbird nectar to put out.
We have hired two additional midwives. It's difficult to believe it's true, actually. The other midwife and I are going to hold a meeting for us all so that we can clearly define expectations for practice. I also want to introduce new ideas to add to our practice or to contemplate adding, so that we can make our outcomes as best as possible. I have connected with a nationally recognized midwife who boasts a 95% vaginal birth rate. Our practice is sitting at 90% and I know we can do better.
I revamped our centering material to make it easier for us to run centering. We needed to iron out details especially before we introduce new midwives.
Darin had one breakthrough episode one evening right before bed that never escalated to violence. Derek and Jenna were offbeat that night and the next day from it, since I was at work. Darin reports that he thought it wasn't so bad because he wasn't violent but we were able to discuss how violence is never acceptable and that the episode never needed to occur if he had obeyed the parent's directions in the first place. We have been several weeks with a normal life. We are able to live a normal family life and he is able to attend school normally - all because of medication. It is unbelievable the difference that it makes. It's like the condition doesn't exist at all while he is therapeutically medicated. I wonder how long this reprieve will last, or what exacerbations in the future look like. Without his medication, it's a life of suffering for all of us. I know that my son has an underlying psychiatric condition that, without medication, would likely cost him his life. To be suicidal at the age of 8 is something pulled from my nightmares. Darin's raw state can be hard to forget, no matter how well we now move from day to day. His musculoskeletal anomalies are rare, but they are so much easier to explain.
For now, the boat has stopped rocking so much. Work hours are many but with a plan in place to become less, family life has stabilized and the ground stopped moving beneath our feet. It's a brief moment in time this Sunday is, but long awaited.